By: Anllelic Lozada, Los Tweens & Teens “Tia-in-Charge”
“I enjoyed it every year because you loved school so much. Just watching you go through the process made me happy,” said mami when I asked her how she viewed my back to school seasons.
As an only child, I’ve had both the fortune and pressure to have all the parental attention and resources for me. That wasn’t more apparent than the period between July and August, as I embarked in a new school year.
I remember growing up in Puerto Rico and going on the 90-minute trip from Arroyo to San Juan to go on our “epic” back to school shopping sprees in the biggest mall of the Caribbean – Plaza Las Americas.
In these super-fun day trips, which may have included returning 1 or 2 more times, my mom bought my pretty Benetton book bag with matching lunchbox, my one-of-a-kind penny loafers, the new sneakers in season for physical education (“P.E.”) class, new underwear, and all the school supplies imaginable.
As my father worked long hours as a Chef, most times I did the trips just with my mom and sometimes we would take Gueli (my abuela) for the ride. But as long I was happy and got the best of the best, it was enough for papi.
My favorite part was getting home that night, spreading all the bags on my parents’ bed and opening all shopping bags while I re-examined, with great enthusiasm, all the new purchases while showing papi.
Even though I haven’t experienced a back to school as a student since finishing my Master’s Degree over 6 years ago, I still get a taste of the excitement (and a little sadness) of the countdown before summer ends and the feeling of new beginnings because my mami has been a first grade teacher for over 30 years.
This back to school year is a very special one because it’s mami’s last as she will retire by the end of the term. I have enjoyed going through the preparation process with her, which includes bittersweet feelings, but at the same time “being ready for it.”
Much is written about the parents’ role in back to school, but what about the teacher’s perspective?
I can tell you that after 35 years “going back to school,” mami still feels like she misses the school after the summer months (even though she secretly wishes the summer was longer!), her buying a new wardrobe (yea, mom was always the fashionista), she looking forward to seeing her colleagues and getting to meet her new “babies” (as she calls her first graders).
Teachers also have to deal with new regulations, new rules, new parents, new students, new bosses – and at times going through “being new in school.”
As a proud P.A.N.K (professional aunt, no kids), with no firsthand experience yet of leading these efforts, I asked mami what advice she would give parents to help kids thrive in going back.
“Parents are the first teachers and the home is the first school, so make sure that you are contributing to the new adjustment of coming back to a daily routine of chores and responsibility by incorporating structure slowly during the weeks prior to classes commencing,” she said.
“Get completely involved in your kids’ new year, including meeting the teacher, and show enthusiasm for going back so they can learn to appreciate school. That’s the greatest gift you can give them,” she added.
How do you know if you are doing good as a parent during back to school? Is it measured by how much money you spent? How involved you are in getting to know the new teacher? Or how responsible you are with the new school year demands?
Maybe it’s a combination of all those things… But the amount of love and care you give to the entire process means you’re doin’ good.
I want to publicly celebrate mami for her time, love & money invested in my years between pre-k and high school and honor her contribution to the thousands of first graders that learned how to read because of her.
Mami: I want you to know that you did good in my back to school years, and that you continue doing good as a parent and teacher.
Now I want to ask you: Do you feel you are doing good during this season or do you feel any guilt or think you should have done more? Know another parent who’s doing “miracles with a little?” Share your comments below.
Anllelic Lozada “Angie” is a proud P.A.N.K (professional aunt with no kids), a Personal Marketing Strategist in NYC and Los Tweens & Teens “Tia-in-Charge,” based in New York City. Anllelic wants you to best your best life so you can positively influence your tween and teen. Subscribe to her weekly e-newsletter in Spanish in marketingparatucarrera.com/Vendete, where she shares personal marketing strategies to help you “Comunicar lo genial que eres.”