Disclosure: We were compensated by Minute Maid, but my letter is real 🙂
You know that I’m a crier.
I cry when I laugh too hard, when I’m sad, when I’m angry and when I watch anything touchy-feely.
Well, I couldn’t help but get teary-eyed after watching this lovely video below created by Minute Maid.
It made me remember how I much I love you, I miss you and made me question if I tell you enough.
My original idea for this post was to talk about my perspective as a P.A.N.K. (professional aunt, no kids)
in relation to how my “hermanas de otra madre” (sisters from another mother
) may sometimes feel a mommy guilt trip…even though they are #doingood.
While Im not yet a mom, I know that this is a common feeling among parents – especially as a woman. We tend to want to please everyone and fit so many roles at a time: mother, daughter, wife, career women, friend, tia…and like you: taking care of abuela, when I know Alzeihmer’s is even hardest on caregivers.
My mom and I in my 2-year birthday party
Even though I feel the daughter-guilt-trip when more than a week passes and I don’t call papi or the fact that our daily phone conversations revolve around me and I don’t ask about YOUR day.
I decided that I wanted to dedicate this to you as I needed to clarify two things…
When I asked you if you ever felt guilt as a mother, it was somewhat funny to learn that you had a guilt about not reading to me while I was in your belly and before going to bed – even considering the fact that you are a devoted first grade teacher.
Don’t worry Mami, I still grew up with a love for books and look at me now writing on this blog 🙂
What surprised me to know was the fact that you thought you were way too pushy & controlling because you wanted me to experience life without fear having all the opportunities you didn‘t have.
But isn’t that what GREAT moms are supposed to do?
The thing is that this is exactly one of the things that I admire the most about you as a mother, and I know contributed to the colorful & fearless life I’ve enjoyed as the independent and strong woman I am today.
Yes, I remember not wanting to continue my piano lessons and feeling that I had to because I wanted to please you. Even in that instance, I knew you wanted the best for me and I was willing to sacrifice just a little to make you happy.
Even with all the pushing, it was always a push with love. Your devotion for my education, my three-hobbies-at-time and my never-wear-a-repeated outfit made me feel very special…every minute of everyday.
My beautiful mami and I in NYC, 2013
And now as an adult, you still do when:
– You still call me “mi bebe” (even though Im in my 30s)
– You send me funny videos & memes via Wassup
– You attempt to make bad jokes seem funny
– You show me unconditional support in every decision I make, even if I know you may not 100% agree
– You letting me go into your closet & jewelry box every time I visit
– You are an “alcahueta” and treat my new boyfriends as part of the family
– You hold my hand when we walk (even while we get funny looks from old men)
I want you to know that you did more than be a good mami, you continue amazingly #doingood and I aspire to be you when I grow up 🙂
“Tu bebe” (your baby), Anllelic
Do you have a “dont worry, you are #doingood” letter you would like to write to your mami, papi, grandma, grandpa, brother, sister, tio, tia or friend?
Share your #doingood letter in the comments below and you will not only feel good about brighting her/his day but you will also have the chance to give her/him a gift card on us! Our friends at Minute Maid are providing us with a $200 Visa gift card so we can choose the post that makes me cry the most 🙂
Please add your letters below by May 10th to be considered.
I cant wait to read them!